I am now forty six and, feeling in a somewhat reflective and philosophical state of mind, decided to write down a few words of wisdom to an imaginary younger self. Some of the advice that follows could equally apply to me at forty ( do we actually live and learn..?) but I guess you have to draw the line somewhere! Here goes…
1. Follow the advice of Kahlil Gibran, the Lebanese-American poet, who says: ‘Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.’ If I had been guided by this wisdom, I would not have chased after certain handsome and charming gay young men with emotional issues.
2. Perhaps it is better to think in terms of acting beautifully, or creating beauty, rather than being ‘ethical’ or ‘moral’. This is a more inspiring way of looking at things for those of a more creative persuasion.
3. Allow yourself to be guided by life itself – certain people that may cross your path, opportunities that may come unexpectedly. If you are too wilful, it may actually take you longer to get to where you need to go than if you enter into a more ‘receptive mode of being.’
4.Life is not linear. Live long enough, and you will see the cycles, loops and patterns in life. Celebrate! There is beauty in this.
5.Do not compare your path or life’s journey with any other. That kind of stuff will get in the way of you living the life you truly want to live.
6. ‘Home’ is much more than a beautiful apartment with a great view. More than a certain kind of gay lifestyle. It is feeling comfortable in your own skin. It is discovering your passion and finding your place in the world. Above all, it is finding your people, your tribe.
7. When in doubt, listen to that quiet voice of conscience. It is usually right.
8. ‘Getting free’ is completely different and much more important than getting high.
9. It is better to work for little or no money at something you feel passionate about than become enslaved to a job that is killing your soul.
10. Meditation is a great way to start the day!